To: The First Person Who Broke My Heart

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It’s me again.

I know I keep popping back up like it’s not over… I’m sorry about that. Truly.

Because I don’t want to hurt you any more than I already have. The problem is, I don’t know what hurt you.

I know your favorite numbers are 3, 5, and 8. And I know corn makes you gag even though your favorite color is yellow.

I know you don’t brush your teeth in the shower and that acoustic pop rock is your jam.

I know the names of all your pets.

I know that cookie dough ice cream is your go-to after a rough week.

Your car has a funny, yet accurate name.

I know you think you were born in the way wrong decade.

You love pretty sundresses, but hardly ever actually wear them cuz you work a lot and your style hasn’t changed since high school.

Fall is your favorite season.

I know you have a country voice and that you can’t stand it when people talk around their teeth.

I could go on.

I know a lot.

But I don’t know what hurt you.

I know there were misunderstandings. I know that words I said out of concern for something I wanted to protect were taken the wrong way.

I know we are different.

I also know that we are similar.

But I don’t know what hurt you.

What did I say that hurt you so badly?

Because I never want to say it again.

What did I imply that wrecked your heart?

Because I never want to presume it for the rest of my life.

But I know you don’t believe in second chances anymore.

One was all I got.

And I ruined it without even knowing that I was.

I watched as other people got their second chance, but mine is never coming.

And so I’m forced to wonder what I did that hurt you so badly.

So badly that you don’t want to help me fix it.

I don’t know what hurt you.

But I know what hurt me.

We used to talk about heartbreak a lot.

About yours mostly because my heart had maybe one scratch.

We talked about how the people you dated changed you. About how friends you chose a thousand times over didn’t choose you back.

And somewhere in my ridiculously arrogant, young mind I thought I could prove you wrong about people. I thought I could be the person who refused to give up on you and who would show you that sometimes people stay.

Never once did I imagine that it would be you who proved me wrong.

And I hate that you have to be that person for me. I wish that it could have been someone else. Someone a little less loveable. Someone a little less awesome. But it has to be you because that’s the only way to learn this lesson.

People leave.

No matter how much you love them, no matter how hard you’d fight for them, no matter how loyal you are, people leave.

And now that I know what you know, I understand you so much better.

You were right all along.

People suck.

I lost so much more than you when you left.

I lost my mind. I lost my heart. I lost everything good and hopeful that was left in me.

I lost two people that day.

But I continued to try and prove you wrong.

I never stopped snapping you. I never stopped writing you. I made videos. So many videos. I just never sent them.

I prayed for you until I couldn’t pray anymore.

And I never stopped falling apart.

Bursting into tears in the middle of the day, screaming in my car, getting rug burn on my face from hours spent dry heaving on the floor. Chewing every finger bloody and punching everything I could find, and learning how to swear because I had to.

I had to swear because no other words came close to releasing how I felt.

Everything I believed about the world, about myself, about God, about people, about friendship, about loyalty… it all vanished. And I’ve had to try and build new beliefs to replace them.

It’s been 166 days.

And yet I’m no better than the night of the fight.

Hearts aren’t as fixable as glass I guess.

I’m not the person you knew anymore.

But I’m glad you’ll remember me that way.

The way I used to be.

The heart-wide open girl who wanted to be your friend. The one who wasn’t afraid to invest and love without limit.

I always flashback to the last day we saw each other. My favorite day.

We were walking by the water and you asked me completely jokingly-

“So, if I fell in, would you jump in and rescue me?”

And without hesitation I said-

“Yes! Absolutely!”

And we laughed about it.

I’m sorry I couldn’t rescue you.

A little later I had to leave, but I was so sure I would see you again.

You hugged me pretty hard but I didn’t really squeeze back because I thought I’d see you again soon.

I had no idea it was gonna be the last time. And I always wish I had squeezed harder.

If I thought it would help, I would tell you that the day I sent those messages is my biggest regret. Actually, it’s the only regret I have in life at all.

I’ve done everything I could possibly think of to make it all right again. Because I don’t want to lose you.

But I’m not going to pop back up anymore. Because for whatever reason, losing me made you happy.

This is a pain I didn’t know existed, but if me being in pain is the price to pay for you being happy, and free, and the best you that you can be, then I’m more than happy to pay it.

You’re marked on my life for forever.

Maybe you’re angry with me and maybe you call me crazy Katelyn lol!

But I laugh and smile when I think about you, right before the tears come anyway.

There’s nothing I don’t feel completely, deeply, overwhelmingly.

What seems dramatic to some people is just how I experience the world.

So I’m sorry if it’s all too much.

I’m sorry if anyone actually reads this and isn’t quite fond of some of the things contained therein.

I am honest if I’m nothing else.

And someone once told me that sometimes things just need to be written, even if no one ever sees it. ❤

You showed me so much.

And sometimes I want to be able to wish you away.

I want to be able to boldly say “I wish we had never met!”

But I could never say that because whoever gets out of this life without knowing you really needed to improve upon their bucket list.

I hope that I showed you something too. Even if it’s just one thing. I hope that you’re better for knowing me than if you had never met me.

Goodbye my friend.

I wish you every good thing there is in this life.

From: Katelyn

14 thoughts on “To: The First Person Who Broke My Heart

  1. Meiji Zapico says:

    This is heartbreaking. I hope that despite the ugly truth that people leave, someday, you’ll also get to know people who can show you other endings such as coming back, staying, leaving but never forgetting and forgiving. ❤

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      • Meiji Zapico says:

        I never thought I would get so pulled in by your words. They’re so honest, no trying to fluff that it just made me read out each word, take it in and feel the emotions in my heart. But I’m so glad that you’re open enough to still trust life enough and learn even more, even if we both know that there are still sad lessons to be taken in. At the very least, they make us stronger and more grateful for the good things that come to us. ❤

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      • fearlesslyherself says:

        Absolutely. Whenever all of the hard lessons start getting me down or I cry so hard I don’t think I’ll come out of it, I just try to remember that I’ve laughed as hard as I’ve cried. The high is just as intense as the crash down. It’s balanced. Thank you for being so sweet and positive towards me, it’s been a blessing in my little corner of the world. ❤️ I’m not really a hardcore blogger and I didn’t even put any tags on this post so the fact that you saw it and something in it resonated with you enough for you to comment is like a little miracle. I followed your blog and look forward to reading your posts as well. 😉

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      • Meiji Zapico says:

        That’s a wonderful mindset to have, especially since most of the time, when we’re in a rut, we can’t even see past that. To purposefully try to search for the positives, that is just amazing. Even if you aren’t a hardcore blogger, I want to say that you seem to have a real talent for words. Thank you very much for following my blog. I have followed yours as well. No pressure to write, just as long as you feel like it. ❤

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      • Meiji Zapico says:

        Whatever is fine with you. There was a point in my life where I hated blogging, but I’ve overcome that now. Thank you very much, this is such a nice conversation. ❤

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  2. Hannah says:

    Felt the pain in your words. Hope things are way better now. I’m also in the same dark and broken place right now and I know it really sucks. But then again I’m sending you love and want to tell you that everything will be alright soon. Just take time to heal and trust the process.

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    • fearlesslyherself says:

      Omygoodness. ❤️ Thank you so much for commenting, it means so much to me. Every time i think about what happened in my situation, it is still excruciating and I am changed forever because of it. But, i am no longer meditating on it or letting it be the defining factor of my life. We are both so much more than our heartbreak and we have so much more to offer and to live for. Thank you for reaching out with your kindness, it WILL get better. ❤️

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  3. Hannah says:

    I admired your strength during those painful moment. I hope I’ll have the same strength to overcome this pain too as you did. Knowing that there’s someone like you that survived and even became a better person after all the pain inspires me so much. Thank you for encouraging me through your words. ❤

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    • fearlesslyherself says:

      You will get there. ❤️ I’m still healing as well. But if you give it time, be patient with yourself while allowing yourself to heal, and remember who you are, you will come through. Always hold in to the fact that you are intrinsically valuable no matter what. Even if people hurt you or betray you or treat you like you were nothing, they are not the ones who determine your worth or your future. I know what it’s like to feel like someone took everything from me, but they do not have that power.

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      • Hannah says:

        Yes. That’s true. You’re really touching my heart for those kind words. For those encouragement. I know it’s not that easy and it will not gonna happen overnight. But it will. Soon I can stand up with my heart whole again. And I can finally find myself again without seeking any validation to anyone else. I’m wishing you the same thing. We will get better soon. Wish you all the best. And continue inspiring a lot more through your writings and kind words. ❤

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